Pete Mate Has Cancer Cut Out ~ November 2015
Listening is the way. Listening is the beginning of all progress.
Sunday, 1st November 2015
A quiet, relaxing day; we managed a short walk again. This time we took the cameras and took photos of a magnificent Jacaranda tree on a creek bank just outside the park. It looks like a clump of trees but on closer inspection we saw it was all one. We crossed the road and took the path under the bridge to get a closer look. Under the bridge we spied a tent and sleeping bag, the tent looked a little collapsed and we didn’t see anyone but we assumed it all belonged to a homeless person.
Monday 2nd November 2015
I did a few chores and then we went for our walk. As we walked over the bridge there was a very strong smell of 'something dead', a smell that was not there yesterday. We immediately thought of what we had seen under the bridge. Did we go and investigate? No, we didn’t!
We got Pete Mate’s hospital bag ready for tomorrow before we settled down for the night.
Tuesday 3rd November 2015
It was an early start for us today, the taxi collected us at 7.30am and we arrived at the hospital in plenty of time for the allotted appointment of 8.am. At 8.30am a nurse called Pete Mate into a room where he had to answer questions about his health – all previously done copious times on forms and again over the phone. Ho hum.
This bouncy nurse had in the file that Pete Mate was allergic to penicillin and consequently had a red wrist bands ready for him. We assured her he wasn’t. White bands were printed and after some health checks we were shown to another waiting room. From there we were taken into a large cubicle where Pete Mate was prepared for theatre. Another nurse came by and asked the same questions again. Plus the pharmacist came and asked similar questions but also had some of her own. PM’s heart was checked and all was good then we waited and waited. Eventually a cheerful chap arrived and took PM off to the theatre.
I found a coffee shop and had a much needed drink then I went looking for friend Helen who works in the specialist rooms at the hospital. I tried a couple of the suites and no one had heard of her so I gave up. I called a taxi and went home where I busied myself with making cards and knitting. Later the specialist phoned to say all went well and Pete was being stitched up and then taken to recovery. Much later a nurse rang to say PM had been taken to the ward. I rang a little later but he was not up for having a long conversation so I let him be.
Wednesday 4th November 2015
I finally worked out how to use Uber Cars. I had downloaded the 'app' on to my iPad but could not get it to work. A few presses of the buttons later and lots of help from the Uber team and I was off and running. The cars are private and the fares are a lot cheaper than taxis. I arrived at the hospital in time to see Pete Mate being taken away for a shower. The nurse was very chatty and full of life. As Pete Mate was giving the nurses some cheek I knew he was on the road to recovery. Whilst I was there the specialist came to see Pete Mate as did the specialist nurse who knows all about prostates. The medical staff are very good and Pete Mate is getting lots of support. I came home and left him to sleep. Once home I did some knitting and reading.
Thursday 5th November 2015
I collected Pete Mate from the hospital and then our fun began. It was a little fraught getting ourselves into some routine and sorting out bags and tubes and things. It was not the best day and the night was worse.
Friday 6th November 2015
We muddled through another day, we are both feeling tired but by the end of the day nothing seemed that bad. Maybe it was the glass of red that turned things around.
Saturday 7th November 2015
What a difference a good night’s sleep makes; our day started much better. I went for my walk and Pete Mate was a little more mobile. As the day progressed it was clear that the pain was not subsiding and it is a helpless feeling seeing someone you love in such pain. We had a chat with daughter Julie in England – a short one because PM was not feeling the best, plus Julie had to go to work.
Sunday 8th November 2015
One dreadful night followed by one dreadful day; poor Pete Mate was in so much pain. In between bouts of pain he slept a lot, he managed a quick chat with Nic and now we just have Bob to chat to and all three offspring have spoken to their dad. I went for my walk and got rained upon but didn’t care, the walk did me good. I then spent the day reading and knitting. I finished a little jacket and hat which I am rather pleased with. Once more we were treated to thunder storms - one clap of thunder saw me jump a mile high.
Monday 9th November 2015
Just an ordinary day here. Pete Mate spent most of the day on the bed and I did some more card making and some knitting.
Tuesday 10th November 2015
We were up and out early because Pete Mate had an appointment at the hospital to have his catheter removed. We were told that the procedure and the checks would take a couple of hours; Pete Mate took all day. He always has to be different. The nursing staff were lovely and so caring. Eventually we were allowed to go home and once home Pete Mate returned to bed. As the evening wore on it became apparent things were improving. Long may it last.
Wednesday 11th November 2015
We enjoyed a better night’s sleep last night and what a difference it made to our day. Pete Mate came for a walk with me but it took it out of him and he had to rest at Gloria Jeans. The rest of the day was spent doing the usual things like reading and knitting.
Thursday 12th November 2015
Yesterday’s walk for Pete Mate was probably too soon and he did not feel the best today. I did heaps of washing, some other chores and then went for a walk.
Friday 13th November 2015
Today was pretty much the same as yesterday. During my walk I supported a fund raiser for cancer research that was organised by the local pharmacy. The weather is hot and muggy and I am thankful we have the air conditioner.
Saturday 14th November 2015
The predicted thunder storm raged outside whilst we stayed warm and dry inside. Well some of the time, there are some things that had to be done so getting wet was on the cards even though I tried to time it between showers. Around lunch time the storm had passed over and the sky brightened so we went for our walk. Pete Mate struggled a bit and I had to leave him to rest on a bench. When we returned home he spent the rest of the day on the bed. I did some more knitting and reading and then spoke to my sister on Skype. Another storm came over in the afternoon; all this rain is good for the dams and gardens but not so good when you need to leave the caravan for something.
Sunday 15th November 2015
Not a lot happened here today but it was nice and relaxing.
Monday 16th November 2015
A very pleasant relaxed day. I did a few chores and then went for a walk. Pete Mate did a lot more resting and he seems to be feeling the benefit of it. I did some work on some knitting projects and completed some Christmas cards.
Tuesday 17th November 2015
I went shop browsing today it didn’t take long as there weren’t many interesting shops. Pete Mate was a little more active today which is a good sign.
Wednesday 18th November 2015
We took Billy out for a short drive today after his long rest. He behaved perfectly and started first time. I wanted to do a bigger shop than I have been doing plus the carrying of heavy goods has messed up my shoulder. The whole trip went like a dream for me but not so for Pete Mate he was uncomfortable sitting in the car. Next time I will go on my own now I know the way and where to park.
Thursday 19th November 2015
What a crappy day today was. Pete Mate was in a lot of pain and I felt totally exhausted again, mainly because I had a bad night with my hip. Anyway we got through it one way or another and look forward to the brand new day tomorrow.
Friday 20th November 2015
Not a good day in the Ranson household. By evening things were looking brighter.
Saturday 21st November 2015
A better day and the weather was perfect for a wash-a-thon.
Sunday 22nd November 2015
Today was pretty much the same as our previous days with Pete Mate not being able to move far so once again spent the day in bed. He is still in a lot of pain and is so exhausted even though he sleeps a lot.
Monday 23rd November 2015
Pete Mate was worse today so once again we rang the hospital and this time spoke to the specialist nurse who seemed to think everything was normal. He must have reported it all to Dr Heathcote because we then got a phone call to say go to the hospital for X-rays. We assumed it would be a case of taking a few images and then we would be home. We were there all afternoon as they took scans of Pete Mate with dye going through his body. Eventually we got home and Pete Mate went straight to bed.
Tuesday 24th November 2015
We went to the specialist today who said Pete Mate was haemorrhaging and that is what is causing all the symptoms he was suffering. We were a little miffed when he said we would leave it a couple more days to see if there was an improvement. As he was the specialist we just went along with it. He asked Pete Mate to have some blood tests and went off to find the place. PM said there was no way he could walk that far so I quickly did some shopping and we went home. PM was back in bed as soon as we arrived home.
Wednesday 25th November 2015
Pete was worse this morning so we rang the specialist rooms and then things started happening. We were told to go to the hospital and Pete Mate was re-admitted. They took him away at 2.30pm for scans and he didn’t arrive back in his room until 6.30pm. I gave up waiting and left at 5.00pm and phoned him later. He now has a drain inserted through his abdomen.
Thursday 26th November 2015
My day was taken up mostly with hospital visiting. Pete Mate did not look any better. He still had the drain in and was receiving antibiotics via a drip.
Friday 27th November 2015
I was very surprised to get a phone call telling me Pete Mate could come out of hospital. When I arrived I soon realised that the right hand didn’t know what the left was doing. No he wasn’t going home. Then yes he was. He was going back on the drip. No he wasn’t. His medication will arrive at noon then you can go home, it arrived probably about 1.30pm and then it wasn’t right. The right stuff arrived and then we were told to wait for another result to come through from a blood test. Eventually we were told we could leave. Once home Pete Mate made a beeline for the bed to get some sleep as he hadn’t had much in hospital. There was a knock at the door and the lovely young girl from the office brought down a gift of flowers and wine which had arrived for us. The lovely Sue Waterman is such a thoughtful person and a great friend. To me it was to signify a turning point in our lives.
Saturday 28th November 2015
Last night was terrible. We had two inconsiderate young men in a 'whizz bang' who chattered and whizzed and banged all night. At 2.00am they started the damn thing up after several attempts and left. We rejoiced too soon. They came back with two girls and then the noise continued. At 5.30am I went over and gave them the benefit of my knowledge of what the word 'consideration' means. When I got back Pete Mate said I bet you never used one swear word. Of course not. You can imagine what he would have said if he had been well enough to go over. The rest of the day was not the best, mainly due to lack of sleep. We did manage a couple of nanny naps.
Sunday 29th November 2015
A quiet day here. I went for a walk and Pete Mate got plenty of rest.
Monday 30th November 2015
A day pretty much the same as yesterday. Our days are more relaxed as Pete Mate gets stronger.